The best question asker
Rylee. She is uniquely wired to ask more than the average amount of questions. While this does pose a patience-challenge sometimes, it is a wonderful quality and I do my best to affirm it. Every now and then I do ask for a ten minute question-asking timeout. To which she usually asks “Why?” and I have to laugh.
This morning while we had breakfast together before church we got to talking about Finn and she was saying how he was too cute and we were gushing over him as we tend to. We talked about how glad we were that he’d been given to our family. The lingo we use whenever we talk about children is always intentional and always positive. So it was natural for her to frame her question the way she did, but it still surprised me:
If God gives a baby to someone and they didn’t really want to have kids, then what happens?
Um, wow. She is only 8 and though we’ve talked abortion in broad terms I didn’t really want to go there in our short time at the breakfast table. She actually asked the question in regards to someone we know that recently got married. And they do want kids, I made sure she knew that.
But still, the question loomed and was such a big one. I stumbled for words as I ate my pancakes and told her that maybe people might not think they did but once they’d been given a new life to love, they might change their minds. This prompted a whole new thread of thought for her, and more questions. I told her:
Well, just like animals get surgery (like our cat and dog did) so that they don’t have babies, people can do the same thing. And to be honest, after Kyler was born we thought our family was full and perfect. We really did. But God spoke deeply to my heart and to daddy’s. We listened. He told us that His plans for our family were different than ours. If we had said ‘no thank you’ to what He was asking of us, you wouldn’t have the sister you prayed for. And we wouldn’t have squishy, smiling Finny here today. Can you even imagine?
She said no way! And I agreed, I can’t imagine. Though there are chaotic moments, the bottom line is we are abundantly grateful for the path we’re on and the way God has shaped our family.
What I wish I’d said but thought about later was the way that God grows and opens our hearts if we let Him. I really didn’t think there was room for more little people for me to love in my very early years of mothering. But the most amazing things happen when Love abides in an open heart. Though I run out of love regularly, the Love Giver Himself is always overflowing with more than I could ever need.
That love is amazing, unwavering and extravagant. And it is always, always enough.